Single & stuck?

Books and Movies 2006 | Debbie Maken and Connally Gilliam discuss how to obey God when marriage doesn’t happen | Susan Olasky

Most girls grow up thinking that they will marry and have children. What happens when that expectation isn't met, when temporary singleness stretches well into a woman's 30s or even later? That's the subject of two very different new books: Getting Serious About Getting Married by Debbie Maken, and Revelations of a Single Woman: Loving the Life I Didn't Expect by Connally Gilliam. Their authors recently answered questions about singleness and the state of Christian marriage formation.

WORLD: Why did you write your books?

MAKEN: It was born out of my own frustration with being single by default, and hearing nothing but glib, pithy answers to my dilemma. In my research, I learned our beliefs about singleness today are radically different from what Christians used to believe. Our current teachings do not comport with Scripture, and validating singleness (as opposed to celibacy—a rare gift) is only helping push along a social deviancy.