The Bloemsma family from East Flat Rock, N.C./Handout

'Look after orphans'

Roe v. Wade | Twenty ways to become an adoption-friendly church

Issue: "Pro-baby," Jan. 30, 2010

While Christians commonly praise adoption, most American churches do not have a single family that adopted a child during the past year. Churches can and should play a crucial role in encouraging members to "look after orphans in their distress" (James 1:27). Here are some specific ideas on how to become an adoption-friendly church:

1. Pray that you and your church would become adoption-friendly. Pray that potential couples will be sensitive to the Lord's leading in their lives. Pray that the church as a whole steps up its involvement in assisting couples who adopt.

2. Preach key passages on caring for orphans and spiritual adoption. Passages like James 1:26-27 remind us that pure and faultless religion emphasizes care for those who are least able to care for themselves. Ephesians 1:3-5 portrays the act of physical adoption as a great object lesson for spiritual adoption in Christ). Since God cares for us in our affliction, we should care for orphans in theirs.

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3. Invite guest speakers to raise awareness of adoption needs and opportunities. Those who lead adoption ministries can share their passion with your church in small groups, Sunday school, and services. Give church members the opportunity to hear about these needs while giving them ways to help.

4. Make adoption resources available to the church family. A wealth of adoption resources-both secular and Christian-can be helpful to couples considering adoption. Most of the time misconceptions about the adoption process keep families from considering adoption. The church can provide helpful facts for couples to make informed decisions.

5. Frequently list pro-adoption ministries and organizations. List them in your church bulletin and have a "resources" link on your church website connecting to these fine ministries. You help these ministries by making them known to your people, but you also assist your people by providing accessibility to helpful resources.

6. Encourage couples facing infertility to connect with adoptive parents. Some couples hop onto the emotional roller coaster of infertility drugs and in the process incur huge medical expenses. Graciously counsel those couples to consider the privilege of parenting an adopted child (before their emotions and finances are exhausted).

7. Regularly have adoptive parents and birth mothers share their testimony of God's goodness and grace. Testimonies can be powerful reminders to the congregation of what "good" can come out of a "bad" situation as ordained by God.

8. Educate your church family regarding the costs involved in the adoption process. Most members in the church may be unaware of the expenses involved in adoption such as: home studies, background checks, attorney fees, airfare and travel costs (especially for international adoptions). Adoption costs vary from a few thousand dollars to $20,000 or more. The cost should not scare off potential adoptive families, but should motivate the church as a whole to "count the cost" and offer assistance. What price tag can we put on a young life?

9. Encourage the church family to give financially to adoptive couples. Giving financially to adoptive parents is one of the most-if not the most-significant things you can do. As potential couples take the giant step of faith in the adoption process, one of the biggest concerns will be "how are we going to pay for this"? A monetary gift along with a note of encouragement can greatly encourage the couple by affirming their decision to pursue adoption.

10. Create a standing church fund for adoptions costs. Church members can contribute to this special fund that adoptive families can utilize (either an interest-free loan or one-time gifts to these couples). Churches can also take up a special Deacons' Fund offering.

11. Challenge Sunday school classes and small groups to raise money for adoptive couples. Love offerings help lessen the financial burden of adoption while exhibiting how members of the body of Christ can encourage and support each other. Imagine the surprise on the couple's faces when they discover that their own Sunday school class sacrificially gave to help in the adoption of their child.

12. Establish an Adoptive Parents Small Group in your church. Get a key person in the church to take this on as a ministry. Meet on a monthly or quarterly basis as needed. This support group provides encouragement for those couples in the midst of the adoption process or those contemplating adoption.

13. Create email list-serves of adoptive parents for support and encouragement. Sinc.e the adoption process brings emotional highs and lows, staying connected by email can prove helpful-especially when a couple needs a timely word of encouragement.


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